Do you want to get back together with your ex??

If you are reading this right now then I know how you feel. Right now you are hurting. You feel lost and confused. You don't know what to do. I have good new for you: You came to the right place!

I was recently in your shoes and made all of the classic mistakes that you a. have made b. will make c. feel you should make.

Let me tell you right now, no matter how you think you should act, do the opposite. If you want your ex back, if you want her/him to feel that same passion for you that they use to then you must resist the temptation to react to your feelings. PLEASE! This is very important and I will explain why a little later.

As much as it sucks to hear, the first step in getting your ex back IS no contact what so ever. You have to completely remove yourself from the situation. Give yourself some time to regroup emotionally. Think of it as an emotional vacation because that is exactly what it is.

I will update this blog daily with tips so you can check back everyday for the next step. This first one IS THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT ONE! You have got to cut all forms of contact. No seeing them, calling them, texting them, e-mailing them. No contact means NO contact. There are NO EXCEPTIONS!

I am going to tell you right now what NOT TO DO:
Do not give the ex reassurance that you've changed and things will be different
Do not tell them you love them over and over again.
Don't let them see you sad and depressed. This WILL NOT make them change their mind. If anything, it will make them happier about what they decided.
Don't try to bargain and reason with them.
Don't use any kind of manipulation tactics, i.e, kids, money, etc...

This is how you handle the break up....Say "I understand how you feel. I love you and will respect your wishes. You're probably right...it's probably for the best". And with that go into STRICT no contact mode. Again, NO EXCEPTIONS!

Until tomorrow, Be strong!